Episodes

Tuesday Mar 29, 2022
Be Careful What You Wish For
Tuesday Mar 29, 2022
Tuesday Mar 29, 2022
SHOW NOTES:
On this show…we are taking our time, letting the candle wax run as we explore the warning; be careful what you wish for. I’m sure you’ve thought about it before, if I could have anything, what would I wish for? You might have even played the game when you were young, three wishes. Some of you might have chosen simply, for the moment and others of you might have taken your time, savoring each wish and thinking of an all-encompassing answer. “I wish for unlimited wishes”. But how many of you thought of the after wish. You know that time after the wish has been granted. What now? How do you live with your choice? How do you manage the gift? Sometimes it’s not as simple as granting you what you want but instead, there could be strings attached or conditions. What if it weren’t that simple and instead, every wish led to an extended responsibility. Maybe instead of wishing you find contentment where you are and with what you have. Intriguing? Maybe, let’s dig in and see.
I recently read a book, The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue. In the story, the main character, Adeline is desperately trying to get out of an arranged marriage at the end of the 17th century in France. She has befriended a lady of the woods who taught her to pray to many other gods besides the religious God her parents worshiped. She warned her never to pray at night because the God of the night wasn’t a good god but an evil one. Unfortunately, that is just what happened. In her desperation to escape and not be owned by anyone, she made a deal with the devil. She could live forever, independently but when surrendered, her soul would be his.
She was 23 at the time of the deal and she would be 23 for centuries. Sounds amazing huh? Never growing old and bonus, she could never die which meant, any injury or accident was immediately rectified.
BUT you didn’t think the devil would make it that rich did you? Now the conditions. Why couldn’t she be owned or controlled by anyone? Because as soon as she left their sight, even exiting a room, she was immediately forgotten. She wasn’t allowed to say her name or make a mark in any way on this world. Think about that? She couldn’t get a job, rent a room, have a friend, or make a home. She couldn’t build on more than the first meeting with anyone. No one remembered her. Let that sink in for a minute.
What if no one remembered you or what you did? I think we’ve all wished for eternal youth but imagine if this were the consequence?
At aconsiousrethink.com I found 6 Sad Reasons Why You Are Never Satisfied In Life (+ How To Be)
I want to leave you with 4 Inspiring Messages from The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue
CHALLENGE: count your lucky stars and find gratitude in the life you have. Before you make a deal for more, explore the conditions and impact a wish granted will have on your life. It’s all in the power of perception.
I Know YOU Can Do It!

Tuesday Mar 22, 2022
Asking for, Offering, and Receiving Forgiveness
Tuesday Mar 22, 2022
Tuesday Mar 22, 2022
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On this show…we are laying our cards on the table and summoning the courage to ask, offer, and receive forgiveness. It might sound simple but far from it. Guaranteed you’ve got some sort of shame or guilt stowing away in the baggage you’ve been dragging around for decades. Maybe you haven't come to terms with it or you’ve convinced yourself with faulty justification just to get by, but it’s there. Well today, with your permission, we are going to unpack it with the attempts to sort it out. Forgiveness is multifaceted which is why we are looking at the concept from multiple angles. Asking for it when needed, learning to forgive yourself, extending that offer to others, and then benefiting from receiving said forgiveness. All equals freedom in one form or the other. First, you have to be open and willing to accept responsibility for your own actions and be self-aware enough to realize what you are holding on to or refusing to ask for, could be making all the difference.
I’m not one to hold a grudge. Primarily because I hate tension, literally loath confrontation. I also don’t like to be in a bad mood. I’m not a brooder, a worrywart, or a nervous Nelly. I love calm consistent joy with a sprinkling of anticipation and a dash of drive. That’s where I feel most comfortable. Because of that, I do what it takes to get over it…for the most part.
Where I struggle most is with self-forgiveness. Most of us tend to hold ourselves to a much higher standard than we do others so with that comes harsh judgment and an unwillingness to forget let alone forgive. What does that look like on a face? Maybe nothing if you are good at hiding your deepest feelings. This means a sunny disposition can be hiding a darker storm so just be aware. You can not judge a person by what you see. We all have had trials and tribulations throughout our lives which are far from over. You might be good at compartmentalizing but others may not. So our reactions and how we work through each incident of struggle and strife make the way for what lies ahead.
Why is self-forgiveness so hard? Why are we so quick to let someone else off the hook; to swiftly lower their expectations but our own are kept to the highest standards with no second chances? I don’t know. Have you ever asked yourself that? Have you ever had an in-depth conversation through a personal deep dive on yourself?
Dr. Stephen Marmer enlightens us with more about Forgiveness found at PragerU.com
The Mayo Clinic shares: Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and bitterness
CHALLENGE: let go of resentment and lower your defenses. Be willing to re-examine your role, forgive yourself for the part you played, offer the same to others, and receive the freedom to move forward. You hold the key!
I Know YOU Can Do It!

Tuesday Mar 15, 2022
Self-Love, Eliminating Perfect from your Expectations
Tuesday Mar 15, 2022
Tuesday Mar 15, 2022
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On this show…we are challenging our thought process, removing perceived obstacles, and finding love from within as we eliminate perfection from our expectations. Is your self-love conditional? “When I achieve this or that I can revisit the love I have for myself but not before.” Are your conditions reasonable and achievable or will the love you have for yourself never be realized? Let’s be honest with ourselves today because denying yourself love from within is preventing you from sharing authentic love with others. Everything starts and ends with you. Might sound like a lot of responsibility but hear me out. The way you look at the world and your relationship with it is entirely personal. The ideas you chose to believe and identify with will shape how you operate in it. That’s why this journey of SELF-discovery is all about YOU. You are the self this journey is all about.
Self-love is the self-help buzzword of the decade. It’s painted, screen printed, embroidered, written about, posted, shared, and podcasted all over the planet. But what is it and how does one partake? How many self-help buzzwords or sayings trigger an immediate response with you:
- Breathe
- Keep calm
- Carry on
- Don’t sweat the small stuff
- Choose kindness
- Be mindful
- Let Go
Most seem meaningful and are definitely a friendly reminder but if you don’t know what they mean and how they apply to you then they are just words.
You don’t know what you don’t know. So if you’re curious, if you would like to feel more accepted and loved by yourself and then others, isn’t it worth the journey?
I was too busy worrying about everyone else to worry too much about my own personal development. Now on the surface that sounds gallant but it’s not. My worry was more about control and this misperception that I was more responsible for everyone than I actually was. Because of this warped way of thinking, I spent a lot of time investing my mental and physical energy on those who would have benefited way more from just figuring it all out on their own.
Professionally I excelled but personally, I didn’t take the time to get to know myself and what I truly wanted or needed. You are made up of many glorious parts and endless personas and they all need your attention. This might sound like something else to add to your plate and you’re right. You need to carve out time for yourself - sooner rather than later. Giving to yourself will help you more effectively give to others.
As we strive to create balance in our lives it’s important to explore and extinguish this idea of perfection. Understanding it and its hold over you will help the pace of your journey from the need to be first and fastest to taking the necessary time you need.
CHALLENGE: delight in your journey taking special care to celebrate the self-revelations along the way. Striving for perfection will prevent you from moving forward and enjoying the constant evolution and love that is unique to you.
I Know YOU Can Do It!

Wednesday Mar 09, 2022
Saying No, Meaning It and Sticking to It
Wednesday Mar 09, 2022
Wednesday Mar 09, 2022
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On this show…we are drawing a line in the sand, being kind but concise as we say NO with the purpose of meaning it and sticking to it. One small word. Two little letters yet for some, the hardest word to say. The awkward silence after the delivery can be deafening and cause the weak at heart to cave and backslide. Just like a gymnast strives to stick the landing, one extra step means all the difference. To complicate things, N-O can be spoken in a variety of ways where tone and volume level can make or break the intent. Wow so much to think of before uttering this objection. No wonder we struggle with when and how to convey this simple sentiment, NO. N-O, no can do, nope, uh-uh, that’s a negative, of course not, negative. How uncomfortable are you just thinking about it? Have no fear, literally - no fear. We will explore this small but mighty word, get to the root of our resistance, and come up with some strategies to overcome.
No is a tough one for me. It used to be downright impossible without some sort of excuse or justification to follow. “No….but here’s why, blah blah blah” do you still like me? Did that make it easier? Do you feel ok with my answer? What an exhausting thought process.
Listen, someone asks something of you knowing, right out of the gate, that they have a 50-50 shot. I mean really, how many of us buy “maybe”? So you can say yes or you can say no. They have a 50% chance of getting what they want. You may or may not have been their first attempt so odds are, they have a backup plan. Most things won’t live and breathe by your answer so relax.
Where we fail is to consider our feelings, our time, and our capacity when giving our answer. In many cases, our only consideration is will they be disappointed if we say no. What about your disappointment meant? Does that sound selfish? If you think so, keep listening. This might be where we need some help overcoming this thought process.
Sarah Cy shows us: How to Say NO Without Feeling Guilty, Mean, or Selfish
Finding the balance between self-care and helping others in her article found at medium.com
Iulian Ionescu helps us with: How To Say No: A Guide for Serial People Pleasers found on his blog
CHALLENGE: consider your own feelings, interests, and capacity when evaluating an ask. Be confident in your decision to deliver a no, in a kind and thoughtful way. No doesn’t mean never but for today, you’re saying no to make room for your own yes!
I Know YOU Can Do It!

Tuesday Mar 01, 2022
Digging into what you Love
Tuesday Mar 01, 2022
Tuesday Mar 01, 2022
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On this show…we are pulling out the spade and readying the ground as we start digging into what we love. What are you passionate about? What creates that exciting anxious feeling and what puts a smile on your face? Now, how often do you dig in and lose yourself in what you love? For many of us, what we love is a mirage or eutopia. When we get everything else done and satisfy the needs of everyone else, we will set off in search of this wonderful place. But unfortunately, that day never comes and if we have been lucky enough to grab a glimpse, it’s been fleeting. Well today, let’s agree to table the rest or stick a pin in the to-dos while we explore creative ways to bring what we love to the top of the list.
If you’re like me, you spend the majority of your day getting ready for work, working, or unwinding for work. On the weekends you are desperately trying to do anything but work, which usually means, all the other work. The house, the children, the endless honey-do projects. Oh don’t get me wrong, I hear your world’s tiniest record player playing “You’re Breaking My Heart” and really, I’m not necessarily complaining. I actually love to work. Not in the way I love warm chocolate cookies, a good binge series, or a memorable 80’s ballad - but I do enjoy my work.
What I’m saying is if I was put on the spot and asked “what I love and how often do I do what I love”, I might stumble and struggle for an eloquent answer. See, I’m always harping on finding a healthy balance because these topics are for me too. I continue to fight for a healthy balance.
I’m getting better and like with anything, a consistent reminder and some new strategies are always helpful. So let’s figure some stuff out. First, what do you love? When is the last time you explored this idea and were honest with yourself? Odds are what you love and are passionate about has changed over the years. Which by the way, is normal. I mean if I told you trading Barbies is what I love you might look at me funny but back in the day, it was a popular pastime.
Today looks quite a bit different for me. I’m empty nested by 5 years which as you know is game-changing. When ballgames, dances, homework, dinners, and extra-curricular were a focus you had plenty of places to invest your energy. Now, totally exposed and free to choose, you have to dig deep and go within to see where want to focus - for fun, something spiritually satisfying, or something you’ve never ever tried.
Sounds like we have a path. Let’s also uncover the obstacles and address them for what they are. If they’ve held you back before then they will continue to do so if we don’t hit them head-on. Sound fair?
Your passion could be something completely separate from your “day job” or they could meld and become one and the same. So let’s start by helping you find it before we can decide what to do with it.
Nikki Moberly teaches us: How to let go of control and free up some headspace found at betterup.com
KEY HIGHLIGHTS: Digging into what you Love
- Passion is something within everyone and it is unique to each individual on the planet
- Your passion can be fluid and ever-changing
- Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But if you refuse to open your eyes to beauty (metaphorically I mean) you’ll never see it
- Thinking about the type of impact you want to have on the world is a good way to find your passion
- The world is your oyster, anything is possible, no debts, no doubt, no struggle. You’re free, what do you do?
- Your passion can be anything or anywhere and once we understand and accept that we can all start living passionate lives
- A shift needs to happen towards a mindset that focuses on self-efficacy rather than on controlling external factors
- Focus on our inner world of mindset, outlook, and emotional regulation
- Letting go of what you cannot control also opens the door to exciting or interesting possibilities that you have not even envisioned
- Surrender = the complete acceptance of what is + faith that all is well, even without my input
CHALLENGE: today, make a commitment to explore your passion and dig into what you love. Shift your focus from worry and control to self-exploration and celebration.
I Know YOU Can Do It!

Wednesday Feb 23, 2022
Juggling it ALL, Finding Balance and Joy
Wednesday Feb 23, 2022
Wednesday Feb 23, 2022
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On this show…we are pulling out the cascade, the fountain, and the shower as we strive to find balance and joy while juggling it ALL. Busy, busy, busy! Isn’t that a typical response when you ask anyone how they are? So so busy! Well, aren’t we all. Have you ever stopped to question why? Are you busier now than in times past? Could you be entering or exiting an uncommonly busy season of life? Whether you’re working with balls, clubs, or rings; knives, fire torches, or chainsaws in most instances, you’re setting the pace. You’re adding more to the centrifugal force and you’re offsetting the balance. Before you know it, you’re dangerously close to dropping it all or wish you could. Focus and keep your eye on the highest part of the object while we explore the idea of finding balance and joy from a few different angles.
Remember this motto: Don't worry if you keep dropping the ball, the secret of juggling is throwing, not catching.
See if this resonates with you. You finally have everything in your life organized and you feel on top of your daily schedule. Sweet! Now, what should you do with the extra time you were able to carve out? Oh yeah…take on something else! What a vicious cycle that we are solely responsible for.
Some who know me say I’m the busiest person on the planet. Of course, this is a gross exaggeration and what they are really saying is, you are always into something. Which is true. I do like to be busy. I have a gazillion ideas that I would like to execute and I don’t normally spend much time laboring on the decision to start. I just start.
But there are times I feel overwhelmed and instead of taking time to analyze that feeling, I just soldier on as if all of these extra projects are my duty. But now I want to carve out the time to really study that decision. What might I be missing by not acknowledging this feeling?
Yesterday was a good day. We put aside our typical busy work and dedicated the whole day to connections. We had a lovely church service with our second family. I made a delicious lunch, if I do say so myself, and entertained my grown children, and then we went for a drive and stopped at Matt’s parents to round out the day. Just an impromptu visit with delightful conversation. We hadn’t planned to spend the entire day this way but instead of winding down earlier or getting into our projects, we chose to extend the day with an extra visit. As we pulled out of the driveway to finally head home, we each commented on how nice this day had been. Much needed balance. Now how to work that into common practice.
Over at becomingunbusy.com I found How To Start Over: 5 Steps To Reboot Your Life
Melissa Goldberg tells us: Exactly How to Find Joy Today—and Every Day, found at oprahdaily.com
CHALLENGE: Before you drop it all, consider prioritizing with a softer or a harder throw as you dive into what to remove, release, and reject. Finding balance and joy doesn’t mean becoming an expert at juggling it ALL.
I Know YOU Can Do It!

Tuesday Feb 15, 2022
All I Needed to Learn I Learned in Kindergarten
Tuesday Feb 15, 2022
Tuesday Feb 15, 2022
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On this show…we are sitting up tall, raising our hand, and resisting the urge to cut line as we come to the realization that, all I needed to learn, I learned in Kindergarten. Think about it, it was our foundation for out to treat other people. Unless you grew up with a gaggle of brothers and sisters, it was your first attempt at socialization. You and 23 other little screaming demons. Remember, naptime? Having had children of my own, getting a room full of 5-year-olds to all lay down and take a nap all at the same time is beyond my comprehension! Magic I tell you! So what have we been doing since we mastered the basics? We’ve been formulating strong opinions and judgments and then finding every chance we can get to share them. We’ve forgotten the basics and have started creating our own laws of human decency. Ones that fit and support our own narratives. Don’t you wish you could give some people a good old-fashioned time-out? Notice I didn’t say a trip to the woodshed but I know that’s what you were thinking.
I decided to explore this idea based on a popular book by Robert Fulghum; All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten. Published in 1990 with 7 million copies sold because I found myself shaking my head to outlandish stories of human behavior. The nerve, the Gaul, the perceived right? Whatever happened to common decency? Two teachers in one of my groups commonly refer to this book when we are left perplexed. So I decided to dig into basic manners that transcend every generation and stage of life as well as some that have evolved, thank goodness. I think it’s important to remember how far we’ve come but not to lose sight of the obvious, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
I remember a time when asking someone their age, weight, or salary was a huge no-no. Casual conversation was warned to avoid topics like politics or religion. Personal details were to be offered at a minimum to spare you and the other person. And unless someone offered a window, you didn’t pry!
Today someone will ask you who you voted for and if you’re vaccinated without a second thought. Then if you decide to even answer, truthfully, you are either congratulated for being in alignment with their thinking or chastised, lectured, and/or bullied. Whoa! People, there is a reason you vote behind a black curtain, and your doctor’s office is not allowed to share any details, at all, period! Personal choice and personal privacy. Respect….I’m sure that’s on this list. So Let’s get started!
All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten
Caryn Antonini reminds us of: Bring Back Basic Manners, Please! By the Today Parenting Team
Over at startsat60.com I found What happened to good manners?
CHALLENGE: Please, take some time to revisit the basics to see what might have gotten left behind during your evolution. Look to see, take time to understand, put yourself in their shoes, and then act appropriately.
I Know YOU Can Do It!

Tuesday Feb 08, 2022
Hail to the Chief, Being Your Own Boss
Tuesday Feb 08, 2022
Tuesday Feb 08, 2022
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On this show…we are looking up, up that ladder that is. As we say “Hail to the Chief” and evaluate ways of being our own boss. The controller of our destiny. The final say. The Big Cheese. The Top Dog. However you identify, it’s time to take charge that starts with understanding your power and position. It’s easy to let life happen to you instead of making it happen for you. You’ve been dealt a set of circumstances, it “is what it is”. But I say fooey on all that. Sure, on the surface, it seems that some are more privileged and blessed than others but no one knows the struggle you encounter, but you. With wealth comes sacrifice and with fame comes strife. Nothing is as easy as it seems no matter how you look at it. But, you do have opportunity and that can start today; with knowledge. Knowledge is power. So you want to feel and be more powerful, start discovering and learning more about yourself, about others, and the world around you.
There was a point in time when I loved being an Assistant Manager. You had authority but not the final say. This was perfect when tough decisions needed to be made or you had an angry customer who wanted answers. “oh, I’m sorry sir, I’m just the Assistant Manager. I’ll have to refer you to my Manager on this”. Done, wrapped up nice and neat.
I also saw evidence of this in my earlier years. My parents were the Managers and not only did I defer to them, I felt compelled to seek their advice and direction on all new matters. And then a little monumental thing called independence bloomed and I struck out on my own, getting bruised, burnt, and scarred along the way. Still going to them with the big things but tackling more of the day-to-day on my own. Then at some point, it was more of after-the-fact informative announcements vs seeking their counsel premeditatively.
I remember when it happened more closely, with my own children. “You’re going where?” “You bought what?” and then I realized - they don’t have to ask my permission and now I’m lucky if they share the details after the fact.
Whoa, the tides have really shifted. What do you put off in your life because you either don’t feel you have the power to execute or you don’t feel you have the permission?
How can you assert authority over your life? In your thoughts, your actions, and your control?
Flashpack.com shares HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF FEARLESS, IN 5 KEY STEPS
KEY HIGHLIGHTS:
- The goal is to stop letting fear run the show
- Raise your vibration, and remind yourself that you are worthy of the amazing life you visualize
- There’s no time for jealousy and sabotage in a boss world
- Don’t apologize when you don’t have to – find a way to thank someone instead
- People are on different journeys and everyone has a unique pace in their lives
- One of the most boss qualities is being able to shift unpleasant situations into golden opportunities
- How we think and act is determined by many factors including our belief system, personality, upbringing, and behavioral tendencies
- While comfort zones may feel safe, change never happens there
- You can’t drive a car with emergency brakes on
- When we lack ownership, we tend to fall into the passive trap of saying “I don’t have a choice.” In reality, we always have a choice — even when we don’t actively make a choice, we’re still making a choice by default
CHALLENGE: set your sights higher by pushing off what-ifs and the fear of the unknown. You have the power to charge forward in a new direction and to gather the information you need along the way. Being the boss of your life means taking risks and when needed, surrounding yourself with trusted advisors.
I Know YOU Can Do It!

Tuesday Feb 01, 2022
Benefiting from a Walk Down Memory Lane
Tuesday Feb 01, 2022
Tuesday Feb 01, 2022
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On this show…we’re getting out the scrapbooks and sweeping out the dusty corners of our minds as we talk a walk down memory lane! There are loads of benefits from reminiscing in a positive way. Notice I said reminiscing and not ruminating, there is a difference. Conjuring up sweet memories by re-reading journal entries and organizing old photographs can help you remember the details and with those details, come the happy memories. The emotions you felt as you remember the sparkle in your eye, the fuzzy flitter in your heart, or the way your face hurt from smiling so much. BAM - you are transported by to your “happy place”! This is a real experience you store in your brain and are able to recall to overcome fear, lift your mood, or quiet anxiety. Let’s explore the benefits of a walk down memory lane and how you can journey there often.
I have a pretty good memory, remembering many details from my childhood. Not crazy early memories like some claim but a good amount of specific detail when telling stories from my past. With that said, your hard drive, or brain drive only has so much space. The further away from the memories I get, the weaker the details. That’s sad to me. At one point in my life, those events and subsequent memories were everything!
I’ve tried to be diligent about capturing memories. I took pictures when my kiddos were little and when we had a video camera, took some videos - which all have to be converted now. I started journal after journal with no real consistency. I have a few scrapbooks created when people still printed pics. And now I have timeline entries on Facebook,
I’ve moved around over my life so unfortunately, things are shoved here or there and I’m sure at one point, made it into a box in the infamous garage.
Let’s gain some newfound motivation here by finding out first, how do we benefit from replaying happy memories in our minds? Then, what can we do to make this a more conscious effort? I’m sure we will stumble upon even more ideas along the way.
One of the steps I’ve mentioned before but shouldn’t go without saying is preparation. It is very difficult to conjure up a happy memory when you are in the throes of anxiety or depression. By then, the clouds have moved over the sun, and finding your happy place can seem like a mirage. Never fear - prepare. Take some time while in a calm and even state to look for the path to memory lane. Get a piece of paper or record yourself talking about a specific memory. I would recommend looking for and documenting three memories.
Here is the key, be specific. Today reading, the day I went to the beach might help you actually remember but on a cloudy day of depression, those words will do little to shine the light on the happy memory.
Add detail and color. For example, It was late May when I was 22. After a crazy month of meetings, deadlines, disappointments, and a few wins, I put in for a long weekend. I loaded up the car, found a hotel room on the beach, and set out for Sea Side Beach in Florida. The closer I got the warmer the weather and I rolled down my windows to let the salt air carry me away. I practically ran to the beach the minute I pulled in kicking off my shoes and rolling up my jeans. The sand was soft, powdery white, and quickly went from warm to cool as I reached the water's edge. Swoosh….the ocean welcomed me to my weekend oasis.
Ahhhh you can see what I mean about detail and color. Instantly, you’ll be transported back to that time and place when cares were minimal.
Markham Heid shares: The Power of Positive Memories found at nytimes.com
Memory Help for Seniors: Proven Tips for Boosting Your Brain
CHALLENGE: before stress, anxiety, or depression bring you down, prepare for a guided walk down memory lane to easily transport yourself into a happier time and space. Consider journaling, adding details and emotions to cherish yourself before leaving your legacy to others.
I Know YOU Can Do It!

Tuesday Jan 25, 2022
Recognizing Momentum, Finding Your Stride
Tuesday Jan 25, 2022
Tuesday Jan 25, 2022
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On this show…we are getting in a groove. Not their groove, or their groove, but Yours. It’s time to settle in and find your stride. Have you had enough of the high, highs, or the low, lows? Been on a rollercoaster of inspiration and productivity? Keep putting off what you want because you just aren’t sure how to get started or when? It’s time we recognize momentum and use it to find our stride. So many of us start the year with loads of great ideas and good intentions only to run out of steam before we ever really get started. Why should we be busting out of the starting gate on pace to hit the finish line with record speed? How about we adopt a healthy balance and a maintainable pace that will get us further down the track to success. No more shotgun starts only to find that you’ve come up short.
Oh, I’m just as guilty! If I had a $1 or rather if YOU had a $1 for every time I said I need to join a gym or start exercising, you’d be counting your millions about now. I’m a driven goal achiever but I can’t seem to find the momentum to make exercising a reality. Find something you like, make it part of your day, 28 days to make a habit…yeah yeah yeah - I’ve heard it all before. Applying it and making it stick is what I’m missing.
I remember every August before I started back to school I would say to my best friend, “I’m going to be more reserved this year”. You see, I never once got a positive mark for conduct. I tried, really I did, but I couldn’t seem to control my mouth. Not what I said but how ofter, the volume, the timing….never appropriate. My first-grade teacher said: She talks more than I do and I teach the class! So every year I would start off being quiet, rejecting the impulse to add in my two cents or offer a funny zinger. And every year, I would fail.
See I think going against your grain might be impossible. Instead of a leopard changing his spots what if he just chose a different background? I take back what I might have said in the past “Nothing is impossible?” In this context, that may not be true. It’s not that you can’t do it but do you have the desire and will to do it. I’m sure if I really put my all into it, I could become a runner. But I don’t possess the desire or will to make it happen.
Let’s explore these ideas as well as what it takes to harness your momentum and find your stride. It might be changing the way you look at these things altogether.
KEY HIGHLIGHTS:
- When you understand the difference between a wish and a desire, you will find success in your endeavors
- Real lessons are learned throughout the journey
- Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe it can achieve
- What started as a little movement gathered into momentum and transformed into motivation
- Intrinsic motivation is going to keep us more fulfilled long-term. It’s going to give us a sense of meaning to our lives, and that’s what we should lean on to keep fueling our motivation
- One of the greatest parts of a momentum strategy is that it builds off of one small action and allows you to coast down from there
- When you compare where you are right now with where you ultimately want to be, you typically wind up fixating on the distance between those two points
- It's hard to maintain momentum on your journey when you're losing hope of ever completing it
- To change your momentum, change your perspective
- Hitting those smaller goals gives you a boost in energy and confidence, and that, in turn, keeps your momentum going
CHALLENGE: before you head to the starting gate, take a moment and explore your motivation. Is this something YOU desire and if so, map out your steps to gain momentum. Finding a stride with a pace that suits your life is paramount in maintaining a healthy balance.
I Know YOU Can Do It!