Overcoming Loss: Past, Present, & Future

June 11, 2019

Not only is loss a part of life, but it’s also a part of every day. Every day you are losing time. This can be precious well celebrated time or squandered ill-managed time. This is the choice you have. What did you choose today? Life is a work in progress so don’t beat yourself up - we are going to talk through some ideas.

Past: You can revisit your past with regret, replaying all the mistakes and missed opportunities OR you can forgive yourself for the questionable choices you might have made and help your mind find the lesson that molded the person you are today. In this find gratitude.  

Present: You can let daily challenges stop you from experiencing the joy that awaits you, keeping you stuck in a cycle while the hours waste away OR you can take each challenge for what it is, solving it or releasing it while you search for the good in the day.

Future: You can spend time worrying about the unknown of the days to come writing your future story based on the assumptions of today OR you realize that today is enough and you are learning and growing every hour and with that comes progress and peace that will get you where you need to go.

How many times have you heard - Just let it go? Get over it?

Why isn’t it that easy? Ruminating or getting stuck is a real thing.

Psychological studies state that rumination seems to be correlated to “cognitive incompetence” and “cognitive consciousness“. It means that ruminating individuals are very well aware and conscious of their negative thoughts. They think about past experiences over and over again – up to a point where the thoughts create their own reality, sometimes exaggerating or even differing from what really happened. Ruminators often believe that their rumination will lead to solving a problem, but it really creates a loop where they are stuck in their own thoughts. Cognitive incompetence means that they cannot find their way out of the loop.

Letting go can be difficult. Letting go of people, ideas, expectations, desires; letting go of bad habits, false beliefs, and unhealthy relationships... the list goes on. Every day, every moment presents an opportunity to create ourselves anew, to shrug off the baggage of the past, open ourselves up to the possibility of the moment and take action to create an incredible future.

CHALLENGE: Choose to value your time as a precious gift. Evaluate anything that threatens to steal that and replace it with worry, anxiety, or fear. Stay present and realize loss is inevitable but grief is temporary.  


I know YOU can do it!