Encouragementology

In Debt or Deserving, Knowing Your Worth

May 14, 2019

Worth - the value equivalent to that of someone or something under consideration; the level at which someone or something deserves to be valued or rated. I guess it depends on what IT is and the perceived value in the eye of the beholder. If that is true, why would you buy into a set value decided by someone else? We believe things like, you either have it or you don’t. It’s valuable or worthless. We get this line of thinking in our heads and then worse, we believe it and we defend it.

Absorption of ideas happens often, early in life, and in many cases, subliminally. It would be incredibly helpful if all those ideas were positive and made us feel better about ourselves and more empowered. The problem is, they aren’t. Negative self-talk is a common problem that continues to plague generation after generation. Example: Your Mother was hypercritical about herself with an unhealthy body image. She modeled this type of behavior from her Mother, who in turn, modeled it from her Mother. Little comments like “I’m fat” or “I’m not pretty enough” or ‘I’m not smart enough” floated around and become as accepted as talking about the weather. Some got comfortable with joking about it but the seeds were planted and that hurt cut deep.

Comments like “I need to lose weight” or “I hate my hair” or “I need to do X,Y, or Z before I can be happy” means you aren’t good enough now. Things will get better and you will finally love yourself WHEN you’re better.  Now, we’ve all said it and truthfully felt that way but I guarantee we didn’t know how harmful it could be. If someone would have told you that mentioning that fact that you’re unhappy with your body over and over could give your child the same complex, would you still have said it?

Words are so strong and just like they have the power to lift you up and encourage you, they have the power to tear you down and negatively influence you. Children are little sponges and you might think you are just talking to yourself but where do you think YOU got it from. Learned behavior.  If your little one past or present was following you around today, what would they be learning? If they were playing a game of “copy-cat” what would they look like? Are any of you cringing? I mean it was Monday….did you start your day enthusiastic and ready for a glorious work week? Or did you kick and scream with a sour attitude all through breakfast and off to the bus? You can evaluate your entire day - what were the lessons?

Getting to know you, strong points and weak points will help you love and accept yourself. You will always be in debt and not deserving until you come to a place of acceptance. Self-Worth is knowing and loving yourself and through acceptance, you can build on your self-esteem.

"You are a walking miracle. Repeat this to yourself daily- “I am a miracle. It doesn’t matter what others think of me or how the world thinks of me. The Universe is on my side and I know that I am meant to be here. I am a miracle.”

CHALLENGE: You have one life on earth to live and before you accept fear, failure, and self-defeat, challenge these thoughts with gratitude. Find one thing that you can celebrate to start building your bouquet. Accept that weaknesses can be re-engineered into strengths and self-love is possible. You’re worth it.

 

I know YOU can do it!