Encouragementology

Dealing with the Difficult

May 21, 2019

There is no way we can know everything but we can say without a shadow of a doubt, Life is challenging, there is really no way to alter the face of that but we can look at how we embrace it. You are hit with something challenging - how do you get on top of it or around it. Are you patient and methodical or do you have a high-speed come apart? You have more control than you think. Just because it’s always the way you’ve done it doesn’t mean it can’t be changed.

Take your time, You deserve the discovery here. Sometimes we allow these things to fester because the work is too difficult or we don’t see the benefit. Then, we encounter a rough patch and we respond off the cuff...

Get a handle on your immediate reaction - by calming down and giving yourself time, you give yourself perspective.  Use the S.T.O.P. Model

  • Stop whatever you're doing
  • Take 3 deep breaths
  • Observe how your body feels
  • Proceed with kindness and compassion

Creating space in the day to stop, come down from the worried mind, and get back into the present moment has been shown to be enormously helpful in mitigating the negative effects of our stress response. When we drop into the present, we’re more likely to gain perspective and see that we have the power to regulate our response to pressure.

How do you deal in stressful situations? Do they derail your day? Affect everything else you’re doing?

What if life isn't happening TO you? What if it's happening FOR you? What if every single baby step along the way is on purpose? What if every failure was really just a lesson you needed to learn? What if every rejection was actually God's protection? What if it's supposed to take exactly this long? What if it's going to be better than you ever imagined? What if you have to walk through this valley in order to be strong enough to scale the summit? What if you were given THIS mountain to show others that it can be moved? I don't believe everything happens for a reason, but I DO believe it's possible to find MEANING in everything that happens.  Rachel Hollis (Girl Wash Your Face)

Difficult is a part of life, dealing with it is up to us. Never resolve to this is it..it is what it is and I’m powerless over change. You have more power than you believe and tapping into it will help you open doors that need to be opened and shut ones that don’t serve you well. You are in charge and knowing that is merely changing your perception.

CHALLENGE: Take the time and get to know yourself, your reactions, and your capabilities. When you feel challenged and stress, uncover the reason. It’s important to your well-being to navigate life with peace and joy and you should take all measures to ensure that. You have a choice in how you internalize and participate with difficulties in your life. Make a choice that keeps your well-being in mind.

I know YOU can do it!