We are talking about self-doubt and most importantly, crushing it! What could be causing us to doubt ourselves? Could it be that we stay trapped, and held back by limiting beliefs? Ignoring all the good stuff and going right to the bad. Instead of crushing self-doubt we squash our hopes and dreams believing we aren’t good enough.
So, what do you tell yourself when you think about the future or you have your sights set on something you really want? Do you give yourself a positive pep talk? GO FOR IT! You deserve nothing but the best! You possess all the power to make that happen. You have what it takes to be a success! This is going to be easy because YOU ROCK!
Or…..does it sound much different?
You’re lazy. You have horrible taste in Men/Women. You aren’t smart enough. You're Not worldly enough You’ve made too many bad choices. You're selfish!
As the years go by, that kind of self-talk becomes labels, whether true or not, they are sewn into the fabric of our being. They become part of our core, the vocabulary we use about ourselves, and the thoughts we hold of ourselves.
How could you reframe your limiting belief to be a positive vs a negative?
Before we learn how to do this let’s find out where these thoughts are coming from. Why do you have self-doubt? When did you stop believing that anything is possible? Early in life when you ask a child what they want to be when they grow up you are likely to hear the impossible. An actress and a dog groomer, an astronaut, a rock star, the President, a model...the list can go on and on and it could be a wild combination of things they love. Then somewhere down the line self-doubt creeps in...maybe some reality, but self-doubt is leading the way.
Negative self-talk is something that most of us experience from time to time, and it comes in many forms. It also creates significant stress, not only to us but to those around us if we're not careful. Learn to notice when you're being self-critical so you can begin to stop. For example, notice when you say things to yourself that you wouldn't say to a good friend or a child.
What does your inner voice sound like? Is it hard to hear the positive over the negative? Which one is louder?
Challenge these beliefs because they are preventing you from having the confidence to trust yourself
- Write them down or say them out loud. Does that sound right? Is that you at all?
- Try and think back to the root of this belief. Who said it? What was the circumstance in which it came up?
- Reframe this idea. What could be the positive outcome of this type of behavior or belief?
- Prove this wrong. Step outside of your perceived comfort zone and right this wrong.
Challenge: When you feel doubt creep in, take a time out and ask yourself where, why, and how. Where is this coming from, why am I listening to it, and how can I get back on track! You deserve all life has to offer so don’t give in to negative self-talk and self-doubt.
I Know YOU Can Do It!