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Tuesday Jul 11, 2023
Tuesday Jul 11, 2023
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On this show…we’re doing a mental and verbal inventory check and audit, to become more aware of what we’re passing down and what we’re passing around. Where do our ideas and opinions come from? How are our biases formed? Are we as open and accepting to traits and traditions as receiving and regifting Grandma’s china or have we installed solid filtering systems, protecting our minds and hearts from the legacy transfer of limiting and negative beliefs? Not sure? Then you’re in the right place listening to some ideas that might help you question, understand, reframe, and rethink ideas and opinions that no longer serve you.
Have you ever played hot potato? If you haven't, let me explain. You must pretend you have a steaming hot potato in your hands and pass it around, making sure to let go of it as quickly as possible so you don’t get burnt. That means you have the hot potato only seconds before you pass it on.
Sounds kind of familiar, huh? When you encounter an idea, opinion, piece of news, or gossip (which are sometimes one and the same), how long do you sit with that information before passing it down or around? Do you take the time to question, wonder, research, or think? Or, are you so quick to inform that you pass it without a discerning thought?
Now, remember the telephone game? That is where a person whispers a word or phrase into the ear of the person next to them without any repeats and then that person, whispers what they heard to the next person, and so on and so on. The gag is when the last person repeats what they heard out loud to the group. They rarely have it correct or even close. Imagine how that idea could be impacting what we pass down and around.
Let’s start with what’s been passed down to you…
At The Center for Parenting Education, Audrey Krisbergh shares THE POWER OF FAMILY LEGACIES
CHALLENGE: be aware of what you think and say, where it came from, what you’re passing down, and what you’re passing around. Seek to understand, push back and test ideas and opinions that no longer serve you. You have the power to change your thinking.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday Jul 04, 2023
Tuesday Jul 04, 2023
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On this show…we are checking our frequency, measuring our watts, and tapping into our power because we’re talking all about energy. Energy we store, energy we consume, and energy we share. Not sure about your hertz output? Maybe it’s different given the day, your mood, what has previously transpired, and what is yet to come. For electricity, you check the Kilowatt-hours that show up on your electricity bill. But what about your personal energy? It may take some effort and a deliberate check-in. We aren’t just talking about high energy or low, but everything in between. Positive and negative, productive and counterproductive. Can you change your frequency? Could you be more intentional with the energy you send out and could you be more protective about the energy you consume? The answer is yes. So let's all plugin, open our hearts and minds, and seek to understand.
You’ve heard me say it before, I have two speeds, on and off. But of course that isn’t true. I would say that I notice when I’m full-on into something and when I’m over it more than all the varying degrees in between. Make sense? What get’s you amped up? Charged or recharged, raring to go? I’m sure you’re getting excited just thinking about it…put a pin in that because we will revisit it. Now, what drains your energy storage banks? What truly takes it out of you and causes you to tap?
I would say people as an answer to both questions. I love people and I love pouring into people. As an Encouragementologist, I’m rewarded by the investment I make into others. But as sweet as the reward can be, it can be soured by toxic people. To me, being kind is so easy. I’ve read it takes more muscles, 43 to frown than it does to smile, only 13 but it feels like some people just want to be unhappy. Try as you might, nothing you say or do seems to change that and to me, that’s energy exhausting. Maybe it’s because I do care and do try so for that, I’m willing to keep going but the difference is measurable.
CRISTINA LOPEZ at Balance Media shares THE SCIENCE BEHIND GOOD VIBRATIONS
At jakeyou.com I found information on What’s the Vibe? 10 Types of Vibes (+ How We Sense Them)
Dr. Judith Orloff explains The 4 Laws of Energetic Attraction found on her website
On her youtubechannel I found a CBS interview on Energy Vampires. Let’s listen…
CHALLENGE: Monitor your energy; stored, consumed, and shared. You have the power to change your frequency to emit more positivity which in turn will lift those around you and effectively alter their daily trajectory.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Monday Jun 26, 2023
Monday Jun 26, 2023
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On this show… We are checking it twice, looking to the horizon, and consulting a trusted advisor as we discuss; a clock, a compass, and a companion. This show is not to scare you with reminders like, “You’re running out of time” or “Look at you, you’re still in the same spot” or even to provide a disclaimer like, “You can’t go it alone”. Instead, it’s to remind you how precious time is, and how important it could be to identify what you want so you know where you need to go. And to encourage you to look to or strengthen your inner circle to provide love, support, and inspiration along your journey. We all desire to go somewhere emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Do you think that might require some mindful preparation? Ready to pack your bags and pause the mail?
I attended a leadership conference the other day and came away so inspired. So I would say, they nailed it. Regardless of the business you're in, I think we can all appreciate a day of encouraging talks as we are reminded about the bigger picture and mission in life. It’s easy to get sucked into the day-to-day and lose sight of what’s important. We have meetings, emails, deadlines, and endless to-do’s. Even if you aren’t running the rat race anymore you can get preoccupied with the problems of the world with its perceived timelines and schedules.
How much time do you spend in silence, pondering life, and preparing for what’s next? That’s right ….silence. Not reading, watching, or listening to anything. Not surfing, or clicking, or posting anywhere. Just thinking. Not reminiscing, rehashing, or ruminating. Just thinking.
Time and space are so important to learn who, why, and what you need.
An Ode to Silence: Why You Need It in Your Life
And how to find more of it found at health.clevelandclinic.org
Here are: 7 Tips to Help You Embark on a Journey of Self Discovery found at Bodhiheart.com
Nick Wignall leaves us with 4 Psychological Habits of Highly Self-Aware People found at medium.com
CHALLENGE: pack light for your journey as you will pick up plenty of tools along your way. Maximize your time as you shoot for goals allowing those who care to support your efforts. Build the necessary network by investing your time and energy into others.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Monday Jun 19, 2023
Monday Jun 19, 2023
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On this show…we are setting aside our all-or-nothing thinking, taking a second and maybe even a third look, as we strive to see the in-between, somewhere between this and that. Before you accept it for what you think IT is, formulate a strong opinion, and develop your truth, take another look. Open your mind to alternative ideas. Accept that quite possibly, you don’t have all the answers and embrace something new. See one door can be the beginning but it’s never the end. One door leads to the next, and then the next, and then another as you expand your thinking. The journey is the fun part and once you have enlightenment, well then you re-pack, find a new direction, and set out for uncharted territory. Old dogs can’t learn new tricks is a myth. Your mind, soul, and spirit are craving expiration. Let’s go!
First let me take a poll, how many of you identify with this type of thinking? Do you have a hot or cold mentality? Up or down, yes or no, and not much in between. I always say I have two speeds…. full-on throttle or OFF. But how much are we missing in the in-between? Could there be varying shades of everything or are black and white our only two options? I for one, don’t want to get stuck in my ways, narrow my view, or limit my possibilities.
You too? Well then, let’s set out to explore these unknown lands of the in-between.
Dr. Katharina Star shares How to Overcome All-or-Nothing Thinking found at verywellmind.com
CHALLENGE: Find the in-between of your all-or-nothing thinking as you open up your heart and mind to embrace the learning. Seek to understand by encouraging others to share their ideas and opinions.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday Jun 13, 2023
Tuesday Jun 13, 2023
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On this show…we’re turning down the volume of outside influences, past mistakes, and limiting beliefs to turn inward as we listen to our gut and follow our heart. Do you feel pushed, pulled, and prodded not really sure what to believe or how to feel? When is the last time you checked in with your own thoughts? That’s right, you have them, and on a gut level, you know what sits right with you and what causes you to pause or shut down. So many times we ignore how we think and feel or worse, never even give ourselves the consideration that we might even have an opinion. We’re quick to jump into the mainstream and adopt what we think we hear and believe to be the popular opinion. Because why? To belong, to feel a part of something, to align versus being out of alignment. Maybe your own personal opinion is the popular one and maybe it’s not. Let’s check with ourselves to see.
Some might say I live in a bubble but I see it differently. Check….I’ve reached the first checkpoint, considering how I see it. I have spent a good amount of time on self-reflection along this journey to self discovery. One of the first things I learned is that I didn’t always value my own thoughts and opinions and was quick to morph to fit in. It took some effort to untangle this web of patterns to see what was truly authentic and what was contrived. I have also had the luxury of age. Yep…I said it. I may not always refer to aging as a luxury but in cases of self-awareness and from an experiential context, it’s the best. There is this bizarre switch that flips where as you start figuring things out you start caring less about what others think. I’m not referring to giving up and not caring, I’m talking about not letting self-doubt and the potential criticism of others creep in. It’s beautiful. Now the icing would be if the physical deterioration would instead follow the path of mental enlightenment…oh well.
Karen Young offers 9 Ways to Tap Into Your Intuition (And Why You’ll Want To) found at heysigmun.com
CHALLENGE: book time to check in with yourself; heart, mind, and gut to understand and embrace your own ideas, thoughts, and opinions. You matter and getting in touch with who you are will help you uncover your authentic self.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday Jun 06, 2023
Tuesday Jun 06, 2023
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On this show…we’re focused on finding balance, being flexible, and quick to pivot to secure footing as we strive to ride the ways of constant change. You’ve heard it before, “the only thing consistent, is change”. It feels like every era and generation have claimed the same. Some change is good, necessary, and timely. Some change happens without warning or reason. Sometimes we’re making the change, necessary or impulsive, and other times it's change we neither asked for nor wanted. Why all the changes?
Socrates said, “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new”. Well, the secret isn’t always so plain and obvious or EASY. How do you embrace change? Or maybe I should ask, are you able to easily embrace change or is rejection your go-to? Let’s talk about this subject and look at change from several angles; why, why now, how to roll with the punches, and even how to be satisfied with gratitude and acceptance.
When I look at change, professionally and personally, I see vast differences and then some similarities and patterns. Professionally, I work in technology so change is a must and basically out of our control. Dog years is multiplying their age by seven. A 10-year-old dog is roughly the same “age” as a 70-year-old person. A technology year can be more like 20 human years; your 3-year-old computer could be more like a 60-year-old person. Think about software companies and the pressure to stay current. Like a Rock Star trying to stay on top with another hit record. Companies who sell technology are feeling the same pressure, to stay relevant, capture more of the market, pay back investors…GO GO GO!
Personally, I would like to say I’m a creature of habit, however, if you talk to my family or friends they would say I’m constantly evolving. I do like a good routine though. I find comfort in the familiar and predictable. As much as I like adventure, I enjoy some elements of predictability.
CHALLENGE: embrace change, whether you’re currently consumed by it or you are desperately seeking it. Steady yourself and take control so you’re riding the wave vs being pulled under.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday May 30, 2023
Tuesday May 30, 2023
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On this show…we’re committing to learning from the past, giving honor to the experiences that shaped all of us, and leaning into the legacy we want to leave. We have a tendency to gloss over, rewrite, or try and forget the past or what no longer serves us. A past that might be tainted with mistakes and failures. It’s easier to remember the good stuff than to relive the struggle but where is the learning? What happens if we forget without forgiving? We are all on a journey with good intentions, goals, and dreams but we’re also evolving. We are and those that came before us did too. How many times can you look back over your short life span and say, “Oh if I knew then what I know now…”? Think about hundreds of years. If they only knew then what we know now. But that isn’t how life works, that’s not how progress is made, and how evolution unfolds. So they or maybe you, missed the mark. Are you supposed to forget it happened or the impact it made good or bad? Erase it and start from here? We will all fall, make choices we regret, and steer our lives in and out of progress more than once along our journey. A legacy is the long-lasting impact of particular events, actions, etc. that took place in the past, or of a person’s life. Cumulative not the punchline or moral of the story.
So today, looking over your body of work, what legacy are you leaving? What past events, good or bad, have shaped the person you are now? What struggle in your life can you honor and be grateful for?
On the University of Wisconsin-Madison’s website I found Why should you study history?
On fs.blog I found We Are What We Remember
Jasmine Tanguay shares Ways to Leave a Meaningful, Lasting Legacy found at joincake.com
CHALLENGE: never forget what got you here. The good, bad, and the ugly. What you conquered gave you the momentum to carve a unique path forward for yourself. Take time to share your lessons as you lean into leaving a meaningful legacy.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Monday May 22, 2023
Monday May 22, 2023
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On this show…we’re going to seek to understand; putting aside our biases, limiting beliefs, and exploring our experiences to find common ground. Initial judgment is tough to overcome since part of it is built in for protection. What happens next is really up to you. How willing are you to open your mind and heart and explore a person to find common ground? Is it easier for you to live behind your protective wall of preconceived assumptions? Sometimes it is but it won’t serve you in the long run. Oh, the joy you are missing out on not to mention, the learning, expansion of ideas, and the adoption of new and exciting concepts. Don’t worry, there is time to turn it around and re-commit to re-examining your parameters. Let’s find out where those thoughts come from as we seek to understand.
I would consider myself a very open, trusting, and flexible person yet I too find myself judging people harshly and unfairly. It’s easy to create lanes or categories for the people you meet and force them into these before you truly understand the person, what they stand for, and what their intentions are. “Oh I like this person, we’re going to get along great.” “Hmmm I’m on the fence, I’m not sure we’re going to get along” and how about the category…NO WAY! How quickly do you come to that conclusion? Could we all do a little better? Ok good…can we all commit here and now to see to understand?
CHALLENGE: be slow to discount the importance and relevance of the connections you make. Take the time to explore your biases and judgments as you uncover and overcome your own limiting beliefs. Strive to be a connection others want to make.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Monday May 15, 2023
Monday May 15, 2023
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On this show…we are hanging in there, standing tall, and finding our voice as we confront confrontation. Generally, when asked, most people don’t seek out or enjoy confrontation and yet it can be a part of our everyday lives to some degree. Definition: a face-to-face meeting. a confrontation between the suspect and the victim. : the clashing of forces or ideas: conflict. a violent confrontation between rival gangs. : comparison. As you can see, there are varying degrees, and some are as simple as finding your voice in a tense or disagreeable situation. What is your level of comfort? And a follow-up question…are you already getting anxious about even talking about confrontation? We’ll look at a number of degrees as we search for an understanding and possible technique that will make these moments, stages, and phases of our lives, more agreeable.
I don’t like it. No varying degrees there. Well actually, I’m more comfortable with professional confrontation than personal. Professionally, I have a strong opinion. I mean when it comes to my skill set I’m confident since I’ve been honing my crafts for decades so when confronted, I am more sure of myself if the need arises to push back. Personally, it’s a different story. You would think I’ve had decades and decades…um decades…and uh decades to get comfortable there too but there is still this little girl inside of me who wants to be liked and accepted. I don’t like to hurt people's feelings or be disagreeable so I tend to flex and bend even when I don’t want to. Sound familiar? I like you, am a work in progress.
At success.com found I found 11 (More) Ways to Handle Confrontation
CHALLENGE: don’t shy away from an uncomfortable situation but use it as a way to learn more about yourself, gather a deeper understanding of others, and as a chance to find your voice.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday May 09, 2023
Tuesday May 09, 2023
SHOW NOTES:
On this show…we are stepping up, doing the work, recognizing our role, and taking personal responsibility. Regardless of who’s watching, first and foremost, we’re accountable to ourselves. Ever try and get one over on yourself? Maybe you’re the most gullible when you’re selling yourself, justifying your actions, and glamorizing the situation. I mean really, who’s watching? YOU and you count, possibly more than anyone. How can we start taking responsibility without all the shame and guilt? Forgiveness. But this only happens with acceptance. Looks like we have a lot to unpack and a process to follow, so let’s get started.
Where are you when it comes to personal responsibility? It’s actually a whole thing.
I think it was easier to take responsibility when I got a little older and wiser. I can remember a time when I played the blame game and considered myself mostly in the right. There was also that period I was convinced everything would work out perfectly if people would just do as I told them…yeah seriously! I’ve grown. But when I finally had enough experience under my belt and I could take a step back to look at a larger body of work (my life) I could start to see patterns. Hurts and habits that had a way of repeating themselves. The only common denominator was me so it was pretty apparent. In order to move past that revelation, I had to take responsibility for my own actions and the role I played. A bitter pill, sometimes, but the critical learning made it easier to swallow.
At masterclass.com I found a plan, Personal Responsibility: How to Develop Personal Responsibility
Sara Lindberg helps us with How to Forgive Yourself found at healthline.com
Please remember:
- Be patient with yourself
- You only know what you know
- Be curious for the why but accepting of the unanswered questions
- Be flexible, you can pivot anytime you want
- Own it, no one can write the same story the or the same ending
- Share with others, your story might be just what someone needs to get them through their struggle
- Take your time, Rome wasn’t built in a day
- Don’t be afraid, being willing to take the next step is the hardest part.
- Be Kind, with yourself and others.
- Forgive yourself and others and detach with love when it makes the most sense
CHALLENGE: exchange your burdens for freedom with personal responsibility and forgiveness. Create healthy boundaries as you learn more about your capacity and need for self-care.
I Know YOU Can Do It!