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Tuesday Sep 03, 2024
Tuesday Sep 03, 2024
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On this show…we are exploring the science behind joy and how to cultivate it as we strive to understand happiness. You might have figured out by now that it isn’t always as easy as turning that frown upside down and faking it until you make it, can involve a lot of lying and manipulation, leading to dishonesty with yourself. Finding happiness isn’t just about feeling good—it’s about living a fulfilling life. Understanding what truly makes us happy helps us navigate the ups and downs, making every day a bit brighter. By exploring the science of happiness, we can learn practical ways to cultivate joy and contentment in our lives. It’s not about chasing some perfect, blissful state; it’s about finding what really matters to us and making space for it. And when we do that, not only do we feel better, but we also become better equipped to handle whatever life throws our way. So let’s dive into what happiness really means and how we can all bring a little more of it into our lives!
By now you’ve figured out, I’m a pretty positive person. But it’s a choice and not something that has always come easily. I’ve had my share of strife, complex challenges, and downright trauma but I chose not to live there. You’re right, that’s not as easy as it sounds either. To overcome and move on, I had to come face to face with any and all challenges, take personal responsibility, offer myself forgiveness, and decide to let it go in order to move on. Now that’s a journey but the learning is important and the freedom it provides, is priceless. That doesn’t mean that I don’t get down or have off days. A good 24 hour pity party can be as detoxing as a super cleanse but I don’t stay there. A therapist once said it’s ok to invite sadness in, even to let it stay awhile, but then you have to be willing to ask it to leave.
It’s hard to recognize or be grateful for happiness without a bit of suffering so we will have to cover both sides of the coin.
Joy, like other emotions, is a complex interplay of neurological, psychological, and social factors. Here’s a breakdown of the science:
- Neurology of Joy
- Dopamine Release: Joy is closely linked to the release of dopamine, a neurotransmitter that plays a significant role in our reward system. When we experience something pleasurable or rewarding, dopamine is released, making us feel good.
- Endorphins: These are the body’s natural painkillers and stress relievers. They are released during activities like exercise, laughter, or even eating certain foods, contributing to feelings of joy.
- Oxytocin: Often called the “love hormone,” oxytocin is released during social bonding activities like hugging, spending time with loved ones, or acts of kindness. It enhances feelings of connection and joy.
- Psychological Factors
- Positive Psychology: This field of psychology studies what makes life worth living. Researchers have identified key components of joy, such as gratitude, mindfulness, and optimism. Practicing these can increase our overall sense of well-being and joy.
- Flow State: Joy often arises when we’re fully engaged in an activity we enjoy, losing track of time and self-consciousness. This state, known as “flow,” is associated with deep satisfaction and happiness.
- Social and Environmental Influences
- Social Connections: Strong, positive relationships are one of the most consistent predictors of happiness. Sharing joyful moments with others amplifies our experience of joy.
- Environment: Our surroundings also play a role. Being in nature, experiencing beauty, or even living in a supportive community can boost our sense of joy.
- Evolutionary Perspective
- From an evolutionary standpoint, joy has played a critical role in human survival. Positive emotions like joy help us build social bonds, find meaning in life, and motivate us to pursue goals and engage in activities that ensure our survival and well-being.
- Cultivating Joy
- Gratitude Practice: Regularly reflecting on what you’re thankful for can increase feelings of joy.
- Mindfulness: Being present in the moment allows us to fully experience and appreciate joyful moments.
- Acts of Kindness: Doing something kind for others often leads to a “helper’s high,” a burst of joy from knowing you’ve made a positive impact.
The science behind joy reveals that it’s not just a fleeting emotion but a powerful, essential part of our well-being. By understanding and intentionally cultivating joy, we can enhance our lives and the lives of those around us.
CHALLENGE: Take charge of your happiness by letting go of what no longer serves you and embracing the power of the present. Challenge yourself to rewrite your story, one filled with joy, resilience, and the belief that you deserve a life of fulfillment.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday Aug 27, 2024
Tuesday Aug 27, 2024
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On this show… we are discovering pathmakers as we honor the past while shaping the future.
A pathmaker is someone who blazes a trail in uncharted territory, often breaking through barriers, challenging norms, and creating opportunities where none existed before. They are innovators, leaders, and pioneers who pave the way for others to follow, making significant contributions that leave a lasting impact on society, culture, or a specific field. Pathmakers not only achieve remarkable things in their own lives but also inspire and enable future generations to continue building on the foundation they’ve laid. So let’s take a deep dive into the journey of those who’ve come before us—those incredible individuals who’ve paved the way for the world we live in today. As we reflect on their legacies, we’ll also be thinking about our own. What kind of impact are we leaving behind? Let’s explore how we can honor the past while shaping a future that truly matters. It’s all about appreciating the pathmakers who’ve led the way and considering how we, too, can create a lasting legacy.
I love this anonymous quote: “What you leave as a legacy is not what is etched in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.”
Do you feel like you’re still figuring everything out and aren’t quite ready for a recorded legacy yet? You know, off the record, so to speak. Unless your child prodigy, when do you peak in understanding and effort? Maybe you’re waiting for the Nobel peace prize and maybe you’re not sure the accumulation of your life is worthy to be memorialized but either way, you’re leaving a legacy. The things you say and do matter. They shape, form, and make an impact on those you come in contact with. The seeds you plant run deep and will likely bloom outside of your control.
No pressure!
You can’t rewrite history or miraculously solve the world's problems so outside of those two things, what if we just agree to start living with more intention? From today forward, we will think before we act. Think about the last impact our actions will have on those around us and beyond. Can we start there? Good…outside of that, let’s learn more.
On the TedTalks YouTube channel I found The importance of leaving a legacy | Minke Haveman
History offers valuable lessons when we think about our own legacy, guiding us in understanding the impact we can have on the future. Here are a few key insights:
- The Power of Resilience:
- Lesson: Many historical figures faced immense challenges and adversity, yet their determination and resilience allowed them to make lasting contributions. History teaches us that perseverance in the face of difficulties can lead to enduring change.
- Application: In considering our legacy, embracing resilience can help us navigate obstacles and stay committed to our goals, knowing that challenges can lead to growth and progress.
- The Importance of Values:
- Lesson: Historical pathmakers often stood firm in their values, whether it was justice, equality, innovation, or compassion. Their legacies are often defined by their unwavering commitment to these principles.
- Application: Reflecting on our values and living them consistently can ensure that our legacy reflects what we truly believe in and stands the test of time.
- The Ripple Effect of Actions:
- Lesson: History shows that even small actions can have a profound impact. The decisions and actions of individuals often ripple out, influencing generations to come.
- Application: Recognizing that our everyday choices and actions contribute to our legacy can inspire us to act with intention, knowing that we are shaping the future in ways we may not even realize.
- The Role of Innovation:
- Lesson: Innovators in history, from scientists to artists, have shown that thinking differently and pushing boundaries can lead to groundbreaking advancements. Their legacies are often marked by the new paths they created.
- Application: Embracing creativity and innovation in our own lives can help us leave a legacy of progress, inspiring others to continue exploring and expanding what’s possible.
- The Impact of Community and Collaboration:
- Lesson: Many historical achievements were the result of collaboration and the collective efforts of communities. Movements that changed the world were often driven by groups of people working together towards a common goal.
- Application: Understanding the power of community and collaboration can encourage us to build strong relationships, work with others, and contribute to something greater than ourselves.
- The Significance of Mentorship and Influence:
- Lesson: History is full of examples where one person’s influence, mentorship, or guidance helped shape the path of another, leading to significant developments.
- Application: By mentoring and uplifting others, we can extend our legacy beyond our own achievements, empowering the next generation to carry forward our impact.
- The Legacy of Compassion and Service:
- Lesson: Figures like Mother Teresa or Nelson Mandela are remembered not just for their accomplishments but for their compassion and service to others. Their legacies are defined by the lives they touched and the changes they fostered through empathy and kindness.
- Application: Focusing on how we can positively impact others and our communities ensures that our legacy is one of compassion, leaving the world a better place for future generations.
CHALLENGE: Your legacy starts with the choices you make today—embrace resilience, live your values, and take action with purpose. Challenge yourself to make a lasting impact, knowing that the path you pave will inspire and guide future generations.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday Aug 20, 2024
Tuesday Aug 20, 2024
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On this show…we are exploring the paradox of control and how trying to control others ends up controlling you. Have you ever wondered if your well-intentioned help might actually be a bit too much? It’s easy to blur the lines between being supportive and being controlling without even realizing it. Sometimes, what we see as helping might actually be holding others back. Slippery slope? I don’t want to give you another thing to stress about but it’s easy to go from helping to controlling because our desire to see things done well or protect those we care about can lead us to overstep boundaries. What starts as genuine concern can quickly turn into micromanagement, especially when we feel responsible for the outcomes or anxious about losing control.
So let’s dive into the subtle differences between helping and controlling, and explore how we can make sure our good intentions truly empower those around us. Curious to see where you stand. Let’s find out together!
I always thought I was being helpful…always until I was able to get some perspective and see the difference. It’s ok if you’re not there yet, that’s the journey. The fact that you are committed to getting a better vantage point and some positive alternatives to some of life’s challenges and a HUGE first step. Remember the saying, “The road is paved with good intentions”? Well it’s actually referring to the road to hell but I think it can apply here too because it means, the difference between what someone intends to do and the outcome of their actions. Maybe you initially jumped in to help and maybe you wanted to control the situation from the start and the lines were just a blur. Let’s sharpen the focus as we figure out the difference…
Figuring out if you’re actually being helpful or starting to be a bit controlling takes some self-reflection and thinking about your motives and how your actions affect others. Here are some ways to check yourself:
- Check Your Motives
- Ask Yourself: Why am I offering help or advice? Is it because I genuinely want to support this person, or because I feel anxious if things aren’t done my way?
- Helpful: If your intention is to empower the other person and you’re okay with the outcome, even if it’s different from what you would do.
- Controlling: If your intention is to ensure things are done according to your standards, or to alleviate your own discomfort or anxiety.
- Consider the Other Person’s Autonomy
- Ask Yourself: Am I allowing the other person to make their own choices, or am I trying to steer them toward what I think is best?
- Helpful: If you respect the other person’s right to make their own decisions, even if they choose differently than you would.
- Controlling: If you’re pushing your agenda, making decisions for them, or not giving them the space to make their own choices.
- Observe Their Response
- Ask Yourself: How does the other person react when I offer help or advice? Do they seem appreciative, or do they appear uncomfortable or resistant?
- Helpful: If the other person feels supported, empowered, and grateful for your input.
- Controlling: If they seem frustrated, distant, or resistant, it could be a sign that they feel smothered or undermined.
- Reflect on Your Emotional State
- Ask Yourself: How do I feel if the person doesn’t take my advice or doesn’t accept my help?
- Helpful: If you’re at peace with their decision and don’t feel the need to push further.
- Controlling: If you feel irritated, anxious, or disappointed when they don’t follow your guidance.
- Assess the Frequency and Context
- Ask Yourself: How often am I stepping in to offer help or advice? Is it in situations where it’s truly needed, or am I doing it constantly, even when not asked?
- Helpful: If you offer help selectively, in situations where it’s genuinely needed, and when the other person asks for it.
- Controlling: If you find yourself frequently intervening, even in situations where the other person is capable or didn’t ask for assistance.
- Solicit Feedback
- Ask Them: How do you feel about the help or advice I’m giving? Do you feel supported or overwhelmed?
- Helpful: If they express that your support is valuable and that they feel empowered.
- Controlling: If they indicate that your help feels more like pressure or that they feel micromanaged.
- Evaluate the Balance of Power
- Ask Yourself: Am I trying to maintain control or power in this situation, or am I empowering the other person?
- Helpful: If your actions encourage the other person’s growth, independence, and self-confidence.
- Controlling: If your actions are more about maintaining control or ensuring things go your way.
CHALLENGE: Recognize where your well-meaning actions might be crossing into control and take steps to shift toward empowering others. By embracing true personal responsibility, you’ll build stronger, more trusting relationships that allow everyone to thrive.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday Aug 13, 2024
Tuesday Aug 13, 2024
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On this show….we are peeling back the layers to build more authentic connections amid this tech-driven world. Got a lot of “friends” but still feel lonely? Receiving a lot of “likes” and “loves” but still feeling unheard? Take a minute and count your authentic connections. You know the ones who have your back and you have theirs. You call them and they show up to celebrate or get you back on your feet. They are priceless and they didn’t happen by accident. In today’s tech-heavy world, it’s easy to feel like we’re buried under layers of screens and gadgets, which can make real, authentic connections seem out of reach. But here’s the good news: peeling back those layers isn’t as hard as it sounds! Let’s dive into how to cut through the digital noise and build genuine relationships that enrich our lives.
Having a tight inner circle is critical and yes, exclusive. I have friends who have been with me through thick and thin. They have loved me even through the unlovable stages of my life. And let me tell you, there were many. They are gold and unshakable. I hope I’m half the friend to them as they are to me.
Woodrow Wilson said, “Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together." If that’s true, shouldn’t we take it super seriously? That means effort, being strategic, and adopting a give/get approach.
At Your Life Your Voice I found a breakdown of the different circles of friendship.
At Friendship with Intention, Amanda Diaz shares THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES FOR FRIENDSHIP
Don’t beat yourself up and don’t let yourself get overwhelmed. Set realistic expectations and stop overcommitting. You can only do what you can do but you can do better.
Here are five actionable steps you can take today to become a better friend:
- Reach Out Thoughtfully: Take a moment to check in with a friend. A simple message, call, or even a handwritten note to express that you’re thinking of them can make a big difference. Ask how they’re doing and show genuine interest in their life.
- Offer Support: Be proactive in offering help or support. Whether it’s lending a listening ear, helping with a task, or providing encouragement, showing that you’re there for your friends in times of need strengthens your bond.
- Show Appreciation: Let your friends know how much you value them. Compliment them, express gratitude for their presence in your life, or acknowledge their positive impact on you. Small acts of appreciation can go a long way.
- Be Present: Focus on being fully present when you spend time together. Put away distractions like your phone and engage in meaningful conversations. Quality time spent together deepens the connection.
- Practice Empathy: Try to understand things from your friend’s perspective. Listen actively and offer empathy and understanding, especially when they’re going through challenging times. Validating their feelings and experiences builds trust and strengthens the friendship.
CHALLENGE: Take a proactive step to strengthen your friendships by reaching out, offering support, and being fully present. Challenge yourself to show genuine appreciation and empathy, and watch how these small actions can lead to deeper, more meaningful connections.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday Aug 06, 2024
Tuesday Aug 06, 2024
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On this show…we are searching for a balanced life as we aim to find fulfillment beyond the daily grind. All work and no play may have you out of alignment and in a rut. All for you and nothing for them may have you starving your generous nature. An uneven or unstable footing can cause you to struggle to level your intentions for a calmer life that provides more meaning. Feeling out of balance is something many of us face, especially when we get caught up in one aspect of our lives—be it career, family, friends, our spirituality, or personal joy—while neglecting others. But here’s the good news: recognizing this imbalance is the first step to fixing it. Take a step back, breathe, and look at the bigger picture. What areas are thriving, and which ones need more love and attention? Let’s create a plan to nurture all parts of your life. Maybe it’s setting aside time for family dinners, scheduling regular self-care activities, or finding moments for spiritual reflection. Remember, it’s all about small, consistent steps to bring harmony and fulfillment back into your life. You’ve got this!
Balance is an even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to remain upright and steady. It’s a condition where different elements are equal or in the correct proportions. Sounds a lot like harmony, right? We often strive to give all aspects of our lives equal effort, but is that really realistic? Not always. Personal seasons bring natural shifts in our goals and outcomes. Sometimes, one area needs your undivided attention, and everything else has to wait. These are just seasons in your life, and they will course-correct if you keep things in perspective. Embrace the ebb and flow, and trust that balance will find its way back.
Seeing the bigger picture isn’t always easy, so have a little patience with yourself. Realizing the need for a better vantage point to accurately evaluate needs versus desires is a crucial step toward finding balance. Take your time, reflect, and be kind to yourself as you navigate this journey.
Jack Canfield helps us solve How To Find Balance In Your Life found on his website
At this stage, asking yourself the right questions can provide clarity and insight. Here are some questions to consider:
- Prioritization and Time Allocation:
- Am I dedicating enough time to each important aspect of my life (e.g., career, family, health, hobbies)?
- Which areas of my life are receiving too much attention, and which are being neglected?
- Personal Fulfillment:
- What activities or aspects of my life bring me the most joy and satisfaction?
- Am I making time for the things that genuinely make me happy?
- Health and Well-being:
- How am I taking care of my physical, emotional, and mental health?
- Am I getting enough rest, exercise, and healthy nutrition?
- Relationships:
- Are my relationships with family, friends, and colleagues positive and fulfilling?
- Do I make enough time for social interactions and nurturing my relationships?
- Career and Personal Growth:
- Am I satisfied with my career progress and professional growth?
- Do I feel challenged and motivated by my work?
- Stress and Burnout:
- Do I often feel overwhelmed or stressed?
- What steps am I taking to manage stress and prevent burnout?
- Purpose and Goals:
- Do I have clear short-term and long-term goals for various areas of my life?
- Am I aligning my daily activities with my overall life purpose and goals?
- Flexibility and Adaptability:
- How well do I adapt to changes and unexpected situations in my life?
- Am I flexible in adjusting my plans and priorities when necessary?
- Self-Reflection and Growth:
- Do I regularly take time to reflect on my life and make necessary adjustments?
- What have I learned about myself recently, and how can I apply that knowledge?
- Balance and Harmony:
- Do I feel a sense of balance and harmony in my life, or is something off-kilter?
- What small changes can I make to bring more balance and harmony into my daily routine?
- Fulfillment and Meaning:
- Do I feel fulfilled in my daily life, or is something missing?
- What steps can I take to add more meaning and fulfillment to my life?
- Boundaries:
- Am I setting healthy boundaries to protect my time and energy?
- Do I know when to say no to avoid overcommitting myself?
Reflecting on these questions can help you gain a deeper understanding of where you stand and what adjustments might be needed to achieve a more balanced and fulfilling life.
CHALLENGE: Take a step back and evaluate the balance in your life—identify areas that need more attention and make a plan to nurture them. Embrace the journey towards harmony, knowing that small, consistent steps can lead to a more fulfilling and well-rounded life.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday Jul 30, 2024
Tuesday Jul 30, 2024
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On this show…we’re getting some relief as we navigate the fine line between pressure and stress. Mind overwhelmed, heart in a vice, trying to catch your breath as you process all you have to learn, understand, do, and deliver? Looking for something or anything to give you a temporary reprieve? Hold up, you don’t have to live this way. Instead of checking out or numbing up, let’s try to power through looking for a clear understanding of what’s going on and adopting positive alternatives to chart a more productive path. Figuring out the difference between pressure and stress can help you turn challenges into motivation instead of feeling overwhelmed. Once you get it, you’ll handle tough situations like a pro while keeping your cool!
"The truth is that stress doesn't come from your boss, your kids, your spouse, traffic jams, health challenges, or other circumstances. It comes from your thoughts about your circumstances." - Andrew Bernstein
At Mind Tools I found some effective tips for Coping Under Pressure
Over at Ted-ed’s YouTube channel, I found How Stress Affects Your Body
Stress can really impact those around you, especially kids. Here’s how:
Emotional Contagion: Kids are super perceptive and can easily pick up on your emotions. If you’re stressed, they’ll likely feel anxious or worried too.
Behavioral Influence: When you’re stressed, you might be more irritable or less patient. This can affect how you interact with kids, leading to strained relationships and a negative vibe.
Role Modeling: Kids look up to adults as examples. If they see you handling stress poorly, they might pick up those same habits. On the flip side, showing healthy ways to manage stress can teach them good coping skills.
Communication Breakdown: Stress can make it harder to communicate well. This can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, leaving kids feeling unsupported.
Creating a Tense Environment: Being constantly stressed can make the atmosphere tense and uneasy. Kids do best in a calm and supportive environment, and too much stress can get in the way of their emotional growth.
Impact on Learning and Development: Your stress can affect a child’s ability to concentrate and learn. A stressful environment can disrupt their routine and make it harder for them to feel secure and focused.
So, managing your stress not only helps you but also creates a better, more supportive environment for kids to thrive in.
CHALLENGE: Navigating the fine line between pressure and stress empowers you to turn challenges into opportunities for growth while maintaining your well-being. Embrace effective strategies and a positive mindset to stay motivated and resilient in the face of life’s demands.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday Jul 23, 2024
Tuesday Jul 23, 2024
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On this show…we are unlocking the basics as we explore simple life skills everyone needs but often overlooks. In today’s fast-paced world, it’s no surprise that many people struggle with basic life skills. Between the rise of technology and the hustle of modern life, skills like cooking, budgeting, and effective communication often fall by the wayside. But fear not! By taking small, intentional steps, we can all brush up on these essential skills. Think of it as a fun, ongoing learning adventure—whether it’s whipping up a new recipe, setting up a simple budget, or mastering the art of active listening. Let’s embrace the journey together and support each other in becoming more well-rounded and capable individuals!
So let’s address some simple life skills that shouldn’t be overlooked. Here are just a few we will explore:
Time Management:
- Prioritizing tasks and setting realistic deadlines.
- Avoiding procrastination and effectively scheduling their time.
Effective Communication:
- Listening actively and empathetically.
- Expressing thoughts and feelings clearly and assertively without being aggressive.
Emotional Regulation:
- Managing stress and anxiety in healthy ways.
- Recognizing and processing emotions effectively.
Problem-Solving:
- Identifying problems and breaking them down into manageable parts.
- Generating and evaluating potential solutions.
Relationship Building:
- Developing and maintaining healthy relationships.
- Understanding the importance of boundaries and mutual respect.
Critical Thinking:
- Evaluating information critically and making informed decisions.
- Recognizing biases and logical fallacies.
Negotiation Skills:
- Negotiating effectively in personal and professional settings.
- Understanding the importance of compromise and finding win-win solutions.
Organizational Skills:
- Keeping personal and professional spaces organized.
- Developing systems for managing information and tasks efficiently.
Adaptability:
- Adjusting to new situations and changes with flexibility.
- Embracing change as an opportunity for growth rather than a threat.
Bruce Tulgan shows us How to Begin Boosting Your Soft Skills found at Psychology Today
CHALLENGE: Unlocking basic life skills can elevate your daily journey and amplify your confidence. Begin today by embracing small, practical steps to master these essentials, and witness how they empower you to thrive and shine in any situation.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday Jul 16, 2024
Tuesday Jul 16, 2024
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On this show…we are looking for a little harmony in our hustle as we master work, life, and personal growth. Ever feel like you’re juggling flaming swords while riding a unicycle? Why do some people appear to be killing it on the highwire of life while the rest of us feel like a low-budget sideshow act? Guess what? You would probably be shocked to learn that some see you as the put-together and confident ringmaster running it all with precision. Before you scoff, remember, that life isn’t as it always appears.
But hey, we’re all in this circus together! It’s all about finding that sweet spot where you’re crushing your goals without losing yourself in the chaos. According to Hubstaff.com, 48% of workers call themselves “workaholics”, 66% skip one meal per day due to working hours, and 60% of US workers say they don't have boundaries between work responsibilities and life. Ouch. Let’s flip the script on burnout and turn this balancing act into a dance.
On Clark Kegley’s YouTube channel, I found 5 small HABITS that will change YOUR life forever
Recognizing when your life is out of harmony between work and personal growth can help you get back on track. Here are some warning signs to watch out for:
- Constant Fatigue: Feeling perpetually exhausted, even after a full night’s sleep, is a red flag that your balance might be off.
- Increased Irritability: If you’re snapping at people or feeling unusually frustrated, it could be a sign that stress is taking over.
- Lack of Enthusiasm: Losing interest in activities you used to enjoy or feeling indifferent about work and personal projects can indicate burnout.
- Neglected Self-Care: Skipping meals, neglecting exercise, or ignoring mental health can be signs that you’re too consumed by work.
- Declining Performance: Struggling to meet deadlines, making more mistakes, or experiencing a drop in productivity can signal that your balance is disrupted.
- Strained Relationships: If friends and family are noticing your absence or you’re feeling disconnected from your loved ones, it’s a strong indicator that work is overshadowing your personal life.
- Feeling Overwhelmed: A constant sense of being overwhelmed or unable to cope with your responsibilities is a clear sign of imbalance.
CHALLENGE: Achieving harmony between life, work, and personal growth is your key to unlocking a life of joy and fulfillment. Embrace self-care, set clear priorities, and watch as you thrive both professionally and personally, creating a balanced and inspired life where anything is possible.
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Wednesday Jul 10, 2024
Wednesday Jul 10, 2024
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On this show…we are seeking mind and body harmony as we shift our perspective on exercise from vanity to vitality. We've got it all twisted when it comes to exercise because we've been bombarded with images of ripped bodies and weight loss miracles, making us think that's the ultimate goal. But here's the truth: exercise is about feeling good, living longer, and staying vibrant, not just looking good. If you’re part of the norm then you’ve wasted an inconceivable amount of time pining over the ideal body image that is simply unachievable. Not even for the person in the touched-up picture. Why do we wait until our 40’s, 50’s, or 60’s to start taking our health seriously? Probably because that’s when we start feeling the effects of not taking it seriously before. Let's shift our focus to health and vitality, and watch how it transforms our lives from the inside out!
I will raise my hand first and admit, that my thinking on health and wellness is freakishly flawed. I view myself as curious, an independent thinker, and decently smart so how can I be so off here? Until I dive in to uncover the real reason, I can only point to conditioning. Generational body image issues have deceived me into thinking that nothing tastes better than thin feels and unless you have ripped abs, you’re not done yet. UGH Can you imagine the negative, body shaming loop we let play on repeat in our heads? How do we stop it? Achieve our unrealistic goals or cave to our desires. Nope, that’s your black-and-white thinking taking over and giving you two impossible choices. TIME-OUT! Want to uncover a better way of thinking?
Me too! Stay with me as we walk through some unfamiliar but important concepts.
At now.org I found some alarming statistics on body image
Creating mind and body harmony involves a holistic approach that integrates physical activity, mental well-being, nutrition, and mindfulness practices. Here are some steps to achieve this balance:
- Regular Physical Activity
Exercise for Health: Focus on exercises that promote overall well-being rather than just aesthetics. Incorporate a mix of cardiovascular, strength, flexibility, and balance exercises.
Consistency: Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate aerobic activity or 75 minutes of vigorous activity each week, along with muscle-strengthening activities on two or more days a week.
- Mindfulness and Mental Health
Meditation and Yoga: Practices like meditation, yoga, and tai chi can help reduce stress, improve concentration, and enhance mental clarity.
Mental Breaks: Incorporate short breaks throughout the day to rest and recharge your mind.
- Nutrition and Hydration
Balanced Diet: Eat a variety of foods rich in essential nutrients, including fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats.
Hydration: Drink plenty of water throughout the day to maintain optimal body functions.
- Sleep and Recovery
Quality Sleep: Ensure you get 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night. Good sleep is essential for both physical recovery and mental health.
Rest Days: Allow your body time to recover between intense workout sessions.
- Mental and Emotional Well-Being
Positive Relationships: Cultivate strong, supportive relationships with family, friends, and colleagues.
Therapeutic Practices: Seek professional help when needed. Therapy and counseling can provide tools to manage stress and emotional challenges.
- Goal Setting and Personal Growth
Set Realistic Goals: Establish attainable health and fitness goals that focus on personal growth rather than comparison with others.
Continuous Learning: Engage in activities that stimulate your mind, such as reading, learning new skills, or taking up a hobby.
- Positive Mindset
Self-Compassion: Practice self-compassion and avoid negative self-talk. Recognize and celebrate your progress and achievements.
Gratitude Practice: Incorporate gratitude practices into your daily routine to foster a positive outlook on life.
Holistic Approach: Combine these practices into your daily routine in a way that feels natural and sustainable. Balance is key, and it’s important to find what works best for you.
By integrating these elements, you can create a harmonious connection between your mind and body, fostering long-term health and well-being.
CHALLENGE: Achieving mind and body harmony is all about embracing activities that make you feel energized and healthy, rather than just focusing on looks. Start today by setting goals that prioritize your overall well-being and celebrate every step you take towards a healthier, happier you!
I Know YOU Can Do It!
Tuesday Jul 02, 2024
Tuesday Jul 02, 2024
SHOW NOTES:
On this show…we’re asking ourselves the question, is it really that bad? As we strive to gain a historical perspective on some of today’s challenges. It’s easy to jump on the negative train and pump up the steam engine with your own parroted two cents. But before you know it, the train and the topic have jumped tracks and you aren’t even sure where you’re going or what you’re talking about. Before you join in the chant of “it’s never been this bad”, take a deep dive into history to gain some insight and an alternative perspective. Looking back at history isn’t just about old stories—it’s about learning how we’ve tackled challenges before, seeing what worked, and using that wisdom to navigate today’s ups and downs smarter. It’s like having a treasure map of experiences that can guide us toward better decisions and brighter futures. So, let’s dig in, learn from the past, and build a tomorrow we can be proud of together!
I’ve said it before, I love reading historical fiction. Biographical fiction too but historical fiction gives you new characters living during historical events. I find myself saying…” Whoa, we’ve come a long way baby!” But I think that is so important because if you just read the news or talk around the water cooler, your outlook might be far different. Instead of adopting this narrative, push back and ask - Is this really the worst time in history for _____? Maybe you aren’t sure. Do the research. Dig into the details. Come to the conclusion yourself.
It’s true, not all history is positive but it is relevant. Human beings have made mistakes throughout human history. We’ve failed, learned, grown, and evolved. The only way to make sure we don’t repeat past mistakes is to learn from them. The only way to learn is to research. Take an active part in your narrative by doing the work.
Louis CK on Collin O'Brien 12 years ago, posted on Youtube - Everything is amazing & Nobody is happy
History is crucial for putting today’s challenges into perspective for several reasons:
Understanding Patterns and Cycles: History shows that many challenges are cyclical. Economic recessions, social unrest, and political upheaval have occurred repeatedly throughout history. Recognizing these patterns helps us understand that current challenges are not unique and can provide insights into potential solutions.
Learning from the Past: By studying how previous generations addressed their problems, we can identify strategies that worked and those that didn’t. This can help inform current decision-making and policy development.
Gaining Context: Historical context helps us see the broader picture. For example, technological advancements, medical breakthroughs, and social progress often emerge from periods of significant challenge. Understanding this can help us appreciate the potential for positive outcomes from today’s struggles.
Building Resilience: Knowing that humanity has faced and overcome significant challenges in the past can be reassuring. It fosters a sense of resilience and optimism that we can navigate current difficulties.
Avoiding Repetition of Mistakes: History provides valuable lessons on the consequences of certain actions and decisions. By studying these, we can avoid repeating past mistakes and work towards more effective solutions.
Appreciating Progress: Comparing the present to the past highlights the progress we’ve made. Advances in technology, healthcare, human rights, and living standards become more apparent, providing a balanced view that acknowledges both current challenges and achievements.
Inspiring Innovation: Historical examples of innovation and problem-solving can inspire new approaches and creative solutions to today’s challenges.
Fostering Empathy and Understanding: Learning about the struggles and triumphs of people from different times and places helps build empathy and a broader understanding of the human experience.
By placing today’s challenges within a historical framework, we gain a more nuanced and comprehensive understanding of our current situation and can approach problems with a more informed and balanced perspective.
CHALLENGE: Let’s rewrite the narrative: While today’s challenges seem daunting, history reveals that every era has faced its trials and triumphs. By embracing our past, we gain perspective on our progress and the resilience needed to shape a brighter future together.
I Know YOU Can Do It!