Boundaries: What, Why, and How

SHOW NOTES:

On this show…we are checking our parameters, evaluating our relationships, and contemplating the need for self-preservation as we strive to understand boundaries; what, why, and how. Not sure if you need them? No worries, keep listening. Have them but not quite sure how to enforce them. Stay tuned because you’re in the right place. Boundaries, whether you set them and enforce them or you yourself are held back by them, are established to protect you or the person who implemented them. Setting healthy boundaries is crucial for various aspects of your life, including your mental and emotional well-being, relationships, and overall personal development. If you feel pushed, prodded, coerced, and manipulated, it may be time to stand your ground and clearly communicate what you will and will not tolerate.

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase healthy boundary before but you might have been confused about what that means or why it’s important or not important to you. Healthy relationships in your life should be the goal but do those fall in your lap or are they cultivated? Both. Establishing boundaries in relationships sets the expectation of mutual respect. It helps others understand your limits and encourages them to respect those limits. How do you know you’re boundaries have been crossed if you don’t have them? Coming to an agreement with yourself about what you will and will not tolerate gives you a foundation for evaluating your current relationships. They allow you to make choices that align with your values and preferences rather than being constantly influenced by external pressures.

So open your mind and try to be objective and honest as we strive for a deeper understanding of boundaries.

On the Standord website I found some good information to kick us off; Trust, Safety, and Respect - The Importance of Boundaries

Logan Hailey takes us a step further with How to Set Boundaries: 5 Ways to Draw the Line Politely found at scienceofpeople.com

Tamara Hill gives us 7 Red Flag Signs of Poor Boundaries found at psychcentral.com

At TalkSpace.com I got some advice I want to share on “How to Set Boundaries With a Narcissist”

CHALLENGE: Communicate to yourself and others that you value your own needs, feelings, and limits enough to set impenetrable parameters. Prioritize self-care and self-improvement without feeling guilty to help you make better decisions that align with your goals and values.

I Know YOU Can Do It!